Hey – I get it my friend
There’s this perception that, for every relationship that failed and for every girl you met, it’s another ‘lesson learned experience’?
And the more relationships you went through (in theory) this means you have ‘more experience’ that means you won’t make those same mistakes from earlier relationships again?
And if you compared yourself to a guy who had maybe, (example) 15 partners when comparing yourself against that, there’s a possibility you may feel inferior in comparison?
In reality, all these ‘perceptions’ and ‘assumptions’ are exactly that – no more than a “perception” or “assumption”
If anything, a guy who has had experience of multiple partners and a lot of different experiences may be demonstrating a lack of commitment to a longer term stable relationship; he may even be refusing to settle down or settle for just one partner
Multiple partners, to my mind, is fine if you want to casual date without commitment, but if you are trying to learn valuable lessons in real emotional commitment in love and feelings, it’s important to understand someone else’s own attitudes towards dating as well
Who knows? Advice from such guys may even be that they are emotionally insecure or lack self-esteem/confidence, and could just be protecting themselves from being emotionally hurt
So it’s worth remembering that, ultimately it means very little when your ‘buddy’ or a fellow male may ‘brag’ that he’s had way more girlfriends than you, or had many more relationship experiences than you
Now, don’t get me wrong – it’s positive to learn their lessons on understanding the female psychology and if they have more experience of understanding the tried and tested ‘rules’ of dating and courtship better than you; this is where you will need to judge and learn what is useful and positive from what they can teach you, and ignore what their ego is saying to you
Ultimately, what makes a successful relationship comes down to who you meet and the type of girl you have met – it’s both smug and arrogant of a fellow male to judge the connection you may have with your lady or what goes on between you and the girl of your affections, and to behave like they ‘know it all’
Whether it is your good friend’s well-meaning advice, or a fellow male/buddy, ultimately, another guy’s past or present experiences are his own experiences – it still means little to what is, or will be successful in terms of your own relationship experiences
What do you think?
Questions, comments and feedback welcome
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