Hey friend
I wish to share something with you here
Usually, when you are focused in your career, either climbing the corporate job ladder or running your own business, it’s normal to have some sort of plan – to achieve your goals
When planning in your career, you will have most of the control – ie the success or failure will be ‘mostly’ dependent on the actions you take
You may come up with a plan or method/strategy when it applies to looking for a soul mate
The key difference when you plan to meet that special lady compared to how you plan for your success in your career, is, you do not have most of the control in how things turn out, as far as what happens with regards to the other person’s feelings; despite all the strategising you may put in; their emotions and feelings are not in your control.
The point I am emphasising on the differences between planning your career goals, and planning to meet someone special is this;
When planning your career goals, you can heavily impose or influence your will upon others to try and achieve results
When planning to meet that special someone, you may feel it’s worth joining a gym, taking dance or cooking classes which is wonderful, but, in influencing the outcome, you would usually find that is far less effective if you believe you would apply the same strategy as in your career/business
If you believe that there is no difference between the two types, I really would encourage you to take a look at your own levels of self-esteem, your inner confidence and emotional security
Trying to plan ahead when meeting someone for dating/soul mate purposes, and trying to apply the same precision like it’s a ‘project’ would mean, you miss out on the true feelings of human emotions, love and going with the flow; the element of needing to ‘control’ and ‘plan’ in this instance is frankly – reeking of insecurity
Part of life and falling in love is, if things do not work out for whatever reason, it’s perfectly natural to be allowed to embrace the pain and anguish of dealing with breakups as they happen, and then creating greater self-love and learning greater self-esteem; this is part of the journey and process of falling in love, making mistakes and learning from them
If you fear a relationship is likely to go wrong, then trying to plan because of the fear, brush the pain of the emotional breakup under the carpet and focus on the ‘next thing’ as soon as it does go wrong, is just trying to hide from your own insecurities ultimately – work on securing your own inner true self-esteem and creating greater self-love
What do you think?
Questions, comments and feedback welcome!